This is my first time in my life to thank an American so much! After experiencing lots of difficulties and hardships, my baby’s heart beat is detected in her womb.
In the fifth year after I arrived in Australia, I realized several flags, neither too big nor too little, e.g. graduation as a postgraduate, getting the offer from my ideal company, and disclosing my sexual orientation to my parents.
But for several important flags, I could find no way out. For example, weight loss and marriage were simply a magic spell to me. By chance, I watched a domestic parent-child TV program. At the very beginning, I intended to admire the handsome men taking care of their babies, but I was attracted by the lovely babies.
At that time, I remembered an upperclassman during my postgraduate study, who was my fellow-townsman and also sexual minority. Before then, I saw he showed off his mixed-race baby on Facebook and I thumbed up. I had no idea about baby. Then, I suddenly wondered how my baby looked like.
The shortest answer is doing. I immediately contacted my upperclassman. He introduced me a consultant called Eric with good public praise in the LGBT community. It was said he was very familiar with assisted reproduction in foreign countries and he had a mixed-race twin born in the US.
I signed a contract with a US clinic to enjoy its package service (later, I was very fortunate for I chose this package and I would not pay extra fees for any accident). I told my parents after I signed the contract and they gave me precious support.
Sperm retrieval was very successful in California, where I had a tour for a week and visited my old classmate. The screening for egg donors began before I signed the contract. Since my mother lodged an objection, I didn’t choose from the first batch of eggs. Thanks to a lot of resources Eric had, I selected a satisfactory candidate from the second batch. Later, the interview with surrogate mothers went smoothly and two of them were my ideal candidates.
I originally expected the smooth progress would last to the end, but I just began to experience “difficulties and hardships”! A few days before embryo transplantation, the selected surrogate mother told me she was pregnant and what I did was to bless her. Then, I could only choose another backup. After her body conditioning, she underwent embryo transplantation, but she was not pregnant. Eric comforted me failure was unavoidable. Later, I found the third surrogate mother. After the transplantation surgery, I was uncertain about what the result would be. Unfortunately, it failed again.
Even so, the surrogate mother was willing to try again, which made me moved a bit for the project cycle would be shortened greatly. After transportation second time, she was examined pregnant, but grievous news came to me soon —ectopic pregnancy. One side of her fallopian tube must be resected! Not depressed, I felt much sorry for her this time, for she was sacrificing too much. So, when she said she was willing to try the third time, I was unbearable about it. Eric told me she didn’t want to let her sacrifice be in vain.
Here, I’d like to thank this brave kind lady, whose perseverance helped me achieve my aim! Of course, I also would like to give my gratitude to Eric and all the staff.
A few days ago, I received a message — a baby heart beat image from Eric in the communication group. At that moment, my brain was empty and then I shed tears because of happiness.
From the moment when the plan was launched, I seemed to open a door to a new world. All behind the door were strange but attractive to me. Mum said raising a child was not that simple you look. Sure enough, I faced many difficulties at the beginning. My mother doesn’t regret of giving birth to me, and I will not regret of bring my baby to me.
Wonderful! When I saw my baby’s heart beat image, I didn’t feel lonely as a single for so many years. In the future, there will definitely be difficulties and hardships I can’t imagine, but I’m becoming stronger and stronger for my baby will come. A daddy will make debut soon!
